Santa Monica Counseling, Therapist in Santa Monica, Los Angeles, and Culver City, CA, California - Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT


For 28 years I've helped individuals and couples overcome problems and enhance their self-esteem, marriage and relationships. They quickly see changes and acquire skills for solving problems, better communication, and the capability to manage emotions and boundaries.

Whatever your challenge - a relationship, anxiety, depression, addiction, or codependency - talking to a therapist is the first step towards healing.

I adapt each session to your unique needs as an individual or couple, and I'm committed to helping you find your own solution. I draw on extensive personal and professional experience, as well as ability as an emotional intuitive.

I'm the author of Codependency for Dummies and Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You. I've worked extensively helping those affected by abuse, codependency, trauma, and addiction find recovery. I use powerful, client-centered, evidenced-based techniques, such as cognitive-behavioral (CBT), psychodynamic psychotherapy, EFT, hypnosis, and others. For more information about codependency and my books and ebooks, 10 Steps to Self-Esteem, Dealing with a Narcissist and Difficult People, and How To Speak Your Mind - Become Assertive and Set Limits, see

You'll gain a new perspective, new skills, and greater understanding - catalysts for change that will empower you to achieve your goals and express your fullest potential. Call now for an introductory phone consultation.


Pre-Marital & Marriage Counseling

Child, Parent, Partner,
Gay & Lesbian, Dating

Emotional Issues:
Depression, Anxiety
Anger, Phobias, PTSD

Stress Management
Divorce & Life Transitions
Addiction (Substance Abuse or Behaviors)
Abuse: Physical, Sexual, Emotional
Loss & Grief
Sexual Issues
Illness & Chronic Pain
Career Challenges
Spiritual Issues


"Darlene is a pro at bringing the truth out of a patient. She helps you peel back the many layers of your troubles. She's calm and serene and that feeling supplies a comfortable atmosphere to be honest without judgment."

D.G., Los Angeles

"Darlene has an innate ability to sense what is at the root of an issue and to express those underlying factors in an approachable and hopeful way. She is an excellent listener and a gentle motivator. Each of her reading recommendations turned out to be books that changed my life. My relationship with my wife and my understanding of myself is forever changed as a result of our sessions."

J.N., Santa Monica


1. How do I know if therapy is for me?
Are you in a rut? Are you unhappy or anxious about a relationship or work, or haven't been able to accomplish a goal? Perhaps you've been thinking about a problem for a while and haven't been able to resolve it on your own.

2. How can someone I don't know help me?
It takes courage to ask for help. Talking to a trained Marriage and Family Therapist, who won't take sides or judge you, is a key benefit that friends and family can't provide.

3. How can therapy help?
Psychotherapy can help you sort out the causes and find solutions. Counseling expands your awareness, self-esteem, and options. You will gain acceptance of situations you cannot change, and the  ability to change what you can.

4. How do I know which therapist is right for me? 
Therapy is a collaborative process, and the therapy relationship is an important part of healing. So it's important to choose a therapist with whom you feel comfortable, heard, and not judged.